Are you ready to take your relationship to the next level and make a long-term, serious commitment? It’s a big step, so you need to be sure you’re ready before you take it. Here are five signs that you might be ready for a serious relationship:
Many people want a better and healthier, long-term relationship, but just because you want one doesn’t mean you’re ready for one. Nothing will work out if you aren’t ready for the serious relationship you want. You’ll either not date at all, have short-term relationships, or end up in a bad relationship.
You’re emotionally grown up
In a serious relationship, you need to be emotionally grown up and able to deal with hard feelings and situations. If you can talk to your partner openly and honestly and solve problems well, it may be a sign that you’re ready to make a more serious commitment.
You know what you want
It’s important to know what you want in a partner and a relationship. If you know what values and qualities are important to you and can explain them to your partner, it could mean you’re ready for a more serious relationship.
You’re ready for the commitment
A serious relationship requires a certain level of commitment, and it’s important to make sure you’re ready for that level of commitment before moving on. Think about whether you’re ready to fully commit to your partner and whether you’re willing to make the sacrifices and deals that come with a serious relationship.
You have a strong base
A healthy relationship that lasts a long time needs a strong base. This means having a good level of trust and communication with your partner, as well as having similar goals and values. If you and your partner feel like you have a strong foundation, it could mean you’re ready for a more serious commitment.
You’re happy with your life
Before getting into a serious relationship, it’s important to be happy with your own life and feel like it’s going well. If you’re happy with your job, friendships, and personal growth, and you’re ready to share your life with someone else, that could mean you’re ready for a serious relationship.
The great news is that you are able work to get ready for the connection you want. You can learn how to have healthy relationships with others and with yourself. All of your relationship issues will get better when you put in the work.
Here’s a list of ways to tell if you’re ready for the serious relationship you want or if you still need to do more work to get there:
- Chaos doesn’t turn you on, it turns you off. Chaos includes things like friends with benefits, dating someone you know you can’t be with, dating someone whose interest in you goes in and out, being addicted, and being in situations that make you feel a lot of different things, like highs and lows. You see it as a warning sign, not a challenge, when someone is distant or playing games. When you hear from someone you haven’t talked to in a while, you don’t get excited. You don’t have any room for that junk. In a serious relationship, we trade the chaos, which can feel exciting, for the stability, which can feel boring. But you’re ready when stability is fun.
- You don’t want anyone to hurt you anymore. That even includes a moment of worry. When you no longer settle for less than you deserve.
- You have let go of control. You learn toward being okay with not knowing, which makes it possible for a relationship to grow or end. When you try to take charge of something, you make it last longer than it should. Or, you make something that needs time to grow grow too quickly and too soon, so it ends before it even has a chance to start. You’re ready when you can stop trying to control everything.
- What you want is a partner, not a project. You let other people care for, love, and support you instead of staying in relationships where you do most of the caring, loving, and supporting and don’t get much in return. You’re ready for a healthy relationship when you can enjoy being loved and respected for the way you care for them.
- When someone likes you, it seems clear and makes you feel good. When someone likes you, you don’t have to worry. When someone likes you, it doesn’t bother you. You think, “Well, they must like me!”
- You rely on your instincts to guide you above all else. The best way to show yourself love is to follow your gut. You know you have a healthy relationship with yourself when you trust your gut to tell you what to do. When you have a good relationship with yourself, it’s easier to have a good relationship with someone else.
Remember that it’s okay to take your time and make sure you’re ready for a serious relationship before making a commitment. It’s better to wait and be sure than to rush into something and possibly cause yourself and your partner extra stress and heartache. Trust your gut and pay attention to what you need and want, and you’ll be on your way to a healthy, fulfilling serious relationship.