I believe I’ve seen enough imposters for the time being. They take so much and give so little in return. On the other side, an honest person can become a devoted friend.
It can be difficult to discern the difference between a genuine good person and a phoney. They may share some characteristics. A lovely, genuine individual, on the other hand, is not bragging. What they exhibit is what they are truly like.
How can you tell if someone is genuine or not?
Learning to discern the difference between real and fraudulent persons involves a few life lessons. Many of us must engage in interactions with imposters before we can comprehend how they function.
I’ve been with false people and felt horrible when I discovered they weren’t real. Yes, I believe it is that horrible.
We can all be false at times, but folks who are constantly fake have a personality disorder. They maintain the image they’ve created for themselves. Real individuals accept life as it comes and make decisions based on their beliefs and constraints. Fake people, on the other hand, mimic human characteristics and emotions.
To learn more, let’s look at some particular techniques to discern the difference between the two.
The desire for attention/happiness.
Fake people never get enough attention because they don’t like themselves unless others like them. People that are honest are content with themselves and do not require further attention to demonstrate their abilities.
For example, a false person may have a large number of friends, whereas a real person may only know a few people they can trust. This is because true people do not require numbers; all they require are a few devoted pals.
There is no regard vs there is a lot of respect.
Genuine individuals value others. If they find out that someone doesn’t like it, real people make sure it doesn’t happen again. There are no boundaries when it comes to false persons.
If you inform a false person that they have injured you, they will usually deny it and try to transfer the responsibility. People who are genuine would respect you, but they do not. And a genuine person will go out of their way to put you at ease.
Deception vs Honesty
Many imposters lie in a variety of ways. It’s not always clear why this is happening. It appears that they would feel burdened and bad after telling so many lies, but the majority of them do not. They lie as if it were second nature to them.
You can tell when you’re with this individual because they have difficulty staring you in the eyes. They are aware of what they are doing, but for some reason believe it is OK.
If someone is true and honest, they will tell you the truth even if it hurts you. They will be honest not because they are terrified of being found in a lie or because they are about to be caught in a lie, but because they can’t bear the weight of lying and feeling bad.
Yes, even honest individuals lie from time to time because we’re all human, but not all the time. They make errors.
Here’s what you should know:
False person = liar
Sometimes a genuine person lies.
It isn’t the same.
Proud vs humble
Genuine individuals are either humble or strive to be such. Even if they believe they are bragging too much about what they have accomplished, they pause and say,
“Sorry, but I guess I’m bragging.”
But con artists are constantly boasting about themselves. Among the things they say are:
“Look at the brand-new car I just bought!”
The following morning,
“See how I made the house clean?”
You know, bragging is a method to persuade people to like you, while genuine individuals don’t need anyone’s approval.
They imitate Vs Do on their own way.
Fake people get by mimicking what others do. They even have similar views and standards, even if they are horrible methods of living. They combine these aspects of other people’s personalities to form their own. I keep picturing a Frankenstein monster.
Real people, on the other hand, forge their own pathways in life and seek deep within to understand and respect their unique talents, likes, and dislikes, which have nothing to do with anyone else. It’s incredible how different it is.
False feelings versus genuine ones
Being in the same room as a false person might be unsettling. They may cry if a close friend or family member dies, but this is uncommon. They can be happy since it signifies, they received what they desired. They can also display rage, but it appears to be that of a toddler throwing a tantrum, and it is frequently used to terrify people into giving them what they want.
They don’t appear to be able to cry or feel awful like normal individuals do when they make a mistake. As I have stated, it makes me wince and is virtually impossible to believe.
People who are genuine cry, laugh, and love, and when they do so, it implies something significant. They care about others and aren’t scared to express their emotions. When they are angry, it appears to be genuine rage rather than a phoney outburst. When a real person cries, they are in pain, and their pain is as real as they are.
How to Deal with Deceptive People
We have to deal with false people all the time, even if we don’t want to, especially at work. When we do, we should tell them as little as possible about ourselves and keep as far away from them as possible.
We’d love to help them become genuine individuals, but that’s not always possible. The majority of imposters have been this way their entire lives, and they are the only ones who can change. I apologise if you know someone like this. I do as well.