I looked into ways to be less awkward and learned a few interesting things that help me get along with people better.
I’ve been weird and in my head for most of my life.
- Help people feel better.
- Stop doing things that make you feel bad.
- Don't just listen to the words.
- Don't give out so much information.
- Let yourself be seen.
- Make your face calm.
- Make the other person seem important.
- Slow down a bit.
- Ask a question that not many people ask.
- Ignore people who complain, cause trouble, or are rude.
I was always trying to create a positive impression, so I learned a lot from my wrong decisions and did everything I could to improve my interactions.
Here are some interesting things I found out:
Help people feel better.
It’s easy to get into the habit of caring about yourself when you’re with other people.
“How do I come off?”
‘Do I look really stupid?’
Choose to enjoy the people you’re with and let your calmness spread to them.
Stop doing things that make you feel bad.
A lot of our confidence comes from times when we don’t have to do anything.
When we do things that we regret, we give ourselves a sense of negative identity.
If you don’t like yourself, it will show up everywhere.
If you live well and with pride, you will have an attractive energy.
Don’t just listen to the words.
In most cases, people aren’t even there when you’re talking to them.
They’re too busy trying to think of something clever to say next.
This is why you stand out when you listen.
I mean paying attention.
Why? Because a lot of communication is done without words.
When you really listen, you’ll surprise people with how well you can read them.
Don’t give out so much information.
What happens if you are dead set on disclosing every shady detail of your life?
People know who you are for sure.
This is not a secret. We can’t know everything about you if we want to like you. Be a mystery.
Let yourself be seen.
You might be nervous, but if you’re close to someone physically and mentally, they’re not likely to take that as a sign of warmth.
Let your shoulders drop, loosen up, and move around more.
This not only gives off a friendly vibe, but it also makes you feel calm and quiets your mind.
Make your face calm.
People have told me that I tense up when I talk to them and that my expression can be too intense.
You don’t have to smile like a crazy ape who’s had too many bananas, but a light smile will make you look more attractive.
Make the other person seem important.
People who look important often end up making others look important, which goes against what you might think.
People who aren’t confident point out the flaws in others.
Leaders who are attractive forget about themselves and focus on making others look and feel great.
Slow down a bit.
When I’m nervous, especially after a cup of coffee, I can be a twitchy little thing. Many people normally talk quickly and move in jerky ways.
Being slow shows that you can control your emotions and have status, and it also calms you down so you can think more clearly.
It’s a habit that gets stronger as time goes on.
Ask a question that not many people ask.
Most people spend a lot of time talking about themselves and their problems.
They live in a world that is all about “me.”
You will stand out if you are interested in other people, especially in something that is unique to the person in front of you.
Ignore people who complain, cause trouble, or are rude.
Many of us tend to talk in a critical and negative way.
We complain, moan, and talk. This is not a good way to act.
You show your class and status by having nothing to do with it. Stop talking about things that are so bad and start talking about things that are bright and happy again.
It’s a winning strategy because of how appealing it is.